What is a Private Funeral?

Some people prefer to say a more private goodbye when a loved one passes. This can look somewhat different for everyone, but generally, there are no service notifications or newspaper notices. You may notify people in other ways that, respectfully, this is a time that is being reserved for family, or you may invite a select few friends to join.

A private goodbye may mean a simple visit to the deceased before cremation or burial, or it may entail a small gathering of close friends and family to say a few words or write a message on the casket. You may decide to have a morning or afternoon tea or a glass of wine together as you say your farewells and reminisce. You can also decide if you want to follow the hearse to the cremation.

Choosing a Private Funeral

There are many different reasons for choosing a private funeral, and there is no right or wrong way to farewell a loved one. The departed may have requested a private goodbye, there may be sensitivities that need to be acknowledged, or it could be just a personal preference. It’s okay to have the funeral that best suits your requirements.

Rules for a Private Goodbye

While there are regulations about where you can be laid to rest and paperwork that must be attended to, the service itself should reflect the requests made by the deceased and the preferences of those organising the service. There are no rules for a private goodbye; you can do the things that feel right, and we can support and guide you to ensure you get the goodbye you want.

Pricing for a Private Funeral Service in NZ

Outside of the basic costs for a funeral in New Zealand, you can spend as much or as little as you like on a private goodbye. While pricing will vary according to the choices you make around venues and coffin or casket selection, we have put together an example below so you can gauge the fundamental costs that may need to be addressed.